18 February, 2018

Individualism and Independence

I sometimes wish I could live in a silos... Just as a social experiment.. To see if I'd be able to survive.. Manage to stay away from all the people I like and care about...

I often wonder if we'd live life the same way if we didn't have the social security... Of people we can depend on...
I sometimes wish I could live in a silos... Just as a social experiment.. To see if I'd be able to survive.. Manage to stay away from all the people I like and care about...
I often wonder if we'd live life the same way if we didn't have the social security... Of people we can depend on...
I know all of us like to think that we are individuals, with our own thoughts, feelings and imagination... But I wonder how long we'd survive without the social net... 
In fact even our 'individualistic' thoughts are almost always influenced by our social circle....
Why then, is there so much hue and cry about Individualism....


I am all for independence, but I am not convinced that it necessitates individualistic outlooks...

I know all of us like to think that we are individuals, with our own thoughts, feelings and imagination... But I wonder how long we'd survive without the social net... 
In fact even our 'individualistic' thoughts are almost always influenced by our social circle....
Why then, is there so much hue and cry about Individualism....

I am all for independence, but I am not convinced that it necessitates individualistic outlooks...

31 January, 2018

Break the Norm

What do you do when you want to break an existing norm, but don't want to hurt the sentiments of someone you care... Let the person stay under the illusion that you agree with their thought ? Or make you stand clear ? Where does one draw the line.. will the stance remain eclipsed forever...

At one end, in my head, I am quite clear on what I believe..
But at the same time, I don't think I have the courage to take the stand and explain it...

Clearly, to be able to pull it off, you need courage or clout !

17 January, 2018

Planning

We often plan something... build it up in our head...
And one fine day, we realize, that the outcome has been very different...
So were we expecting too much from life...
Or is this life's way of showing us who is the boss...


31 December, 2017

Learning from this year

Though I thought I plan my travel fairly well, I am likely to be in mid air on New Year's eve... neither at home with family nor celebrating with friends.. just mid air, peeping out of window at a horizon that always makes me wonder what this universe is truly made of.

Maybe it is an appropriate time then, to relook the year gone by, before welcoming the new year, which will hopefully be  welcome change.... pardon me if you find my thoughts more philosophical than usual... 

  1. Time might reduce the pain, but the memory remains... 
    About an year has gone by.... the wound that was fresh, has kind of reduced.. but whoever said one could heal, is all a farce... we just learn to make do with who/what we have with us to the best of our abilities.... but I don't think there is anything called healing... I probably knew all this, but seeing this again in such close quarters kind of refreshed this understanding...

  2. Distance makes the heart go stronger
    Maybe it is too early to call a conclusion on this one, but it appears that the mind adjust to the non - presence, as long as one knows that somewhere down the line, hopefully in this new year in my case, the distance will finally reduce, and things will be back to the chaotic normal.
    It might help to add that missing the other doesn't mean one is not enjoying themselves... every relationship sometimes, needs that time off from the daily chores, to make the not so regular conversations more meaningful.

  3. It is possible to stay off network/data if one wishes too
    I guess we are all so connected through the virtual world, that we often don't connect with people sitting across the table.... this whole hype about the world getting smaller and our being closer through technology is true, but that is only part of the story. We seem to totally miss out on the stories actually unfolding in front of our eyes... come to think of it, this was my issue with the idiot box, which seems to have now been replaced by its smaller version...
    So I recently attempted on plugging into to the virtual world after 8 or once I am back from work, and realized it isn't that tough... 

  4. Financial sufficiency is a state of mind
    We might slog our asses to earn our daily bread and butter and a little more.... but we often over-estimate what we truly need... what all this money is meant to achieve... We curtail expenditure on things which most if the times is probably why we started out to earn... Meetings and work become excuses to not meet with friends and family... to be part of their moments of joy and grief....
    But if you really think about it.... in the end, what will matter in not weather I drove a Beamer or an Alto, but whether I drove it when/where I wanted to... Not that I can eat in any restaurant I chose to, but whom I eat with... Whether I am remembered with a smile or a sigh... and most of it doesn't "cost" much... just some time..
Bottom-line... my resolution from this year.. to be with people who matter to me, especially when they want me to .... and do atleast 2 things that I have been wanting to do for a while... 

Hope the coming year brings the best with it for all of us...

18 December, 2017

The right reason

Marriage seems to be the most talked about thing... especially in an Indian context... It is made to feel that one's life is incomplete without being married....

All through growing up and the 20's, one is reminded about the D day and The choice... As if this one choice defines our purpose in life...

What is most astonishing is the varied explanations given for getting married... from getting married because all your friends have... to getting married to procreate..... Rarely does someone talk about the true reason one might choose... 



30 November, 2017

Truth be told

I have often, and on some days, multiple times in a single day, wondered if it is worth it to "present" the reality in a more palatable form. In our bidding to cushion the blow, or save the day, or sometimes just save ourselves from giving explanations, we invent the truth or maybe window-dress it... without realizing that it will all catch up with us.

With an already overburdened brain, one often tends to get lost in the various shades visible and forget what it really looks like, only to get a rude shock when a situation presents itself.

Though it might seem tough, and often tedious to deliver the truth, it is definitely easier in the long run, than to keep remembering what one has said so far.

If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.
~ Mark Twain

18 November, 2017

The Last Mile

I will drop dead some day... hopefully it won't be long and painful (fingers crossed).. 

Can't stake claims on any great achievements, so my send off, obviously will be inline.... I know I'd be missed by my near and dear, but I don't think I'd like a long a dreary ceremony to put me to rest....

I can just be donated in parts or to some medical college in full (if my health permits)... or simply be burnt down to ashes with all that is left put in soil with a nice plant/tree on top.. it feels like a appropriate final destination... Don't seem to like the idea of flowing down the Ganges, or being washed down the Yamuna....

PS: Don't worry... I am not in a suicidal mode... this is not a death wish... this is just what I ideally want done when I finally kick the bucket...